My friends and I were discussing the pros and cons of culling Facebook “friends”. That word “friend” is used way too liberally on Facebook, instead of a notification saying “You have 1 friend request” it should really read, “You have 1 add-me-although-odds-are-high-that-I-either-don’t-know-you-from- Adam-or-we –never-really-spoke-before request.”
Of the 350-plus “friends” I
have had added as friends on Facebook, I seriously only communicated with, at the most, 70 of them, so what were the other 230-odd doing there…therein lies the rub!
I have a strict policy against adding people I don’t know at all, it just doesn’t make any sense (well unless you are looking for “random play”). Thing is, that takes care of the unknowns, but it’s when sorting between the actual friends, acquaintances, exes and colleagues that this definition of “friend” gets all blurry and confused.
After doing a quick inventory it appeared if you didn’t fit into my solid classification of “friend”, it was highly likely that these individuals fell into the following categories;
1. You know them but last spoke to them when MC Hammer was rocking them hammer-pants.
2. You know them from high school but cannot recall having any significant conversation or relationship with them.
3. You added them, they accepted, you wished they would reach out…they don’t and that’s it.
4. You dated, but have both since moved on and no longer talk, although there’s no beef.
5. You added them because you have a friend in common, although you are not necessarily friends yourselves.
6. You had a weak moment and added them and now wish you hadn’t.
7. You shared a class/course/lecture in kindergarten/primary school/high school/varsity and that’s pretty much what you have in common.
8. You added them because you worked together at that organisation although you hardly said 5 words to each other then and say even less now!
9. You added them because you are just plain curious about what the heck they are up to; they fulfil your stalker-ish urges.
So the bottom-line is that some people are going to be axed (cue dramatic music) ; some just because I never say anything to them in the first place (and vice versa) and the others because, well, I just have to plain let go of them, one way or another.