Tuesday, November 13, 2007

The Silent Treatment


The traits above accurately describe my current boss and then some! Now, i've worked for some interesting characters, most notably;
  1. A recovering coke-head who constantly fell off the wagon & who was prone to unexplainable fits of rage;
  2. A power hungry, frustrated ex-combatant who sadly had already been-all-that-he-could-be and had a dislike for all things female;
  3. A lecherous old man more interested on the length of one's skirt rather than one's opinion on strategies for the next quarter; and,
  4. The career sportsman who spent more of his time at sporting events than actually in the office.

Yes, i have a wide array of bosses who have taught me a lot, more along the lines of what NOT to do when in a certain situation. At the same time, i have been blessed with some amazing mentors who have provided me with guidance, motivation and inspiration...sadly, my current boss does not belong in this category!

My current boss is Passive Aggression personified;

  • She over commits and rarely delivers and then starts pointing fingers and blaming everyone else but herself!;
  • She has fits of rage where she talks to herself and is often heard telling herself off (cuckoo!); and,
  • She's moodier than a 14yr old teenage girl PMS'ing - she's been known to go days without talking to any in the team even when subtly prompted because she's having guy issues??!!!.

My colleagues and i are almost used to this behaviour now (although honestly, who should really get used to such behaviour). We have developed some coping mechanisms like; avoiding direct eye contact with her (she seems to see this as sign of aggression, lol), reverting to email as a mode of communication and last, but not least, putting our earphones on & playing soothing music whilst doing one's work.

Not an ideal situation at the very least, but definitely a learning curve...albeit a steep one :-)

13 comments:

Anonymous said...

Those 5 points describe u know who to a T (lol!) I wonder if I sent the list to him if he would recognise himself.
W

Vimbai said...

Lovely use of play-on words there! Eish, it seems most people have had this kinda of boss at least once in their lives!

Its like dealing with an unstable isotope mate!

Lolo said...

The worst part they want to make it a point that they are the bosses and you have to dance to their tune

Vimbai said...

And dance we will, as they crack those whips of theirs!

Nothing worse than dancing to the tune of an idiot tho!

Lolo said...

It seems like even if you dance to their tune they get even more frustrated by your behaviour and wish you would retaliate. I think the silent treatment would work with such idiots

Vimbai said...

Silence is best....and wearing earphones that are streaming in some soothing Enya should do the trick!

Anonymous said...

I'd rat on her...

Vimbai said...

Whistleblowing is tricky business! Any ideas on how to rat on her?

Anonymous said...

Leave an anonymous typed note under her boss's door....

Anonymous said...

On a side note, as a kid, I always confused anonymous with unanimous. Anyone else??

Vimbai said...

I will don latex gloves and type up the letter on a typewriter (more untraceable)...hehehe.

Oh and anonymous = unidentified/unnamed, and unanimous = in agreement/consensus.

The one i have trouble with is Where and Were...i don't know how to use those two and believe me, people have explained it to me so many times!

Anonymous said...

Sounds familiar, why the hell did you think i turned down Dave and Sima's offers. Yah wel! u nw used to all that nonsense i guess.

Vimbai said...

Lucky you got away while you still could love! Are you back in the land that refuses to give you a driver's license? (PS I assuming this is the person i think it is..hehehe)