Tuesday, October 31, 2006

Happy Halloween!

People may argue that it's a pagan holiday that celebrates all things evil blah blah blah...honestly, its just a great day to have dress-up party mid-week!

Your Halloween Costume Should Be


For once these silly quizzes got it right... i would so definitely get dressed up as Catwoman, as a lover of all things feline...and leather whips *evil chuckle*

Monday, October 30, 2006

Clean Slate

"Today is gonna be the day that they gonna give it back to you
By now you should’ve somehow realised what you gotta do.

And all the roads we have to walk are winding,
And all the lights that lead the way are blinding"

It was while listening to Ryan Adam’s haunting rendition of Oasis’s “Wonderwall” that I realised I’d had enough….felt enough….hurt enough….just plain had enough. One of the most painful things I’ve had to learn this year is to let go….just…let go. Anyone who knows me well can tell you that I don’t let go of anything or anyone easily… I’m a compulsive hoarder, one of those people who can never let anything or anyone go, unless it’s absolutely necessary. A hoarder of clothes, books, emotions, people, useless information. But there is only so much storage space for such things. As the song goes, “by now you should’ve somehow realised what you gotta do”…and that’s where my epiphany comes in.

I think deep down I’ve always known what I’ve got to do…but like a lot of people, I silenced the voice of reason coz honestly, I didn’t wanna hear what it had to say there and then, but now I’m a little more open-minded .

Letting go…that’s my big lesson of the moment.

Letting go of obsolete dreams
Letting go of people
Letting go of preconceived notions
Letting go of resentment
Letting go of guilt
Letting go of regrets
Letting go of anger
Letting go of hurt
Letting go of situations that I cannot control
Letting go of unnecessary material possessions
Letting go…

Letting go of things that were taking up space in your life helps you recognise and hold onto the things and/or people who were making the world a more pleasant place. So I’m doing a bit of spring cleaning and hoping to begin with a clean slate…very liberating and quite scary, but oh so necessary.

"Twas more than I could take,
Pity for pities sake
Some nights kept me awake (I thought that I was stronger)
When you gonna realise
That you don’t even have to try any longer
Do what you wanna…

You’re gonna find yourself somewhere, somehow. "
Corrinne Bailey Rae

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

Real Men...a dying breed?

One of my earlier blogs posed the question, "Where have all the real men gone?". I was then quizzed by individuals as to what my definition of a "real man" was to begin with. I then proceeded to ummmm and ahhhhh a lot, which lost me that argument.

However, in a spirited display of Delayed Action, i would like to lay out the following traits of a Real Man as written by Mr Mafioso, who has the most interesting articles on www.askmen.com

(click here to link his archive of articles http://www.askmen.com/money/mafioso/index.html).

I find them very amusing...some of them are unrealistic. In this day and age of touch feely-ness, i guess these traits revert to the "old school" kinda guy. Trait number 4 is my favourite, lol.

Be warned, a lot Mr Mafioso's suggestions are not PC...but then again, i guess that's the whole point.

Trait #1: A real man is strong
A real man doesn't cry, doesn't moan, doesn't complain, doesn't get sick, and doesn't need to go to the doctor every time he sneezes. A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences. A real man accepts responsibility for his actions and his words. A real man is firm. If life is a b*tch, a real man will slap her and move on.

A real man is the backbone of his family and doesn't have time to be weak. If spiders scare you, you'll never be a real man.

Trait #2: A real man is focused
A real man knows the difference between what's important and what isn't. A real man doesn't waste time on stupidities that don't bring him any profit. Sure, there are things you can do as a hobby -- I like to shoot ducks -- but it must have a purpose. The purpose of my hobby is to improve my aim, and I don't have to tell you whether or not that's a useful thing in my line of work.

From family to Family, know what's important

Trait #3: A real man knows the importance of family
A real man will keep his family strong and pass on his ancestors' history and traditions. A real man knows that his children are God's gift and should be treated as such, even if he disciplines them from time to time.

A real man must also remember his other Family, his organization. In my world, both my family and my Family hold the same importance; I protect them both with all my might. If you have a Family, don't forget where your loyalties lie and who has your back when you need it.

Trait #4: A real man doesn't gossip
A real man keeps his mouth shut. He shelters information and rations his words. A real man does not reveal more than he has to and doesn't engage in girlie talk about others. A real man doesn't discuss things he doesn't know about or people he has never met.

Trait #5: A real man's word is his bond
When a real man makes a promise, he keeps it. If he can't keep a promise, he doesn't give his word. A real man would rather die than break his word. A real man knows that his words are as powerful as his actions, and that they must be taken at face value. That is why he rations them (see above).

Trait #6: A real man strives to be a role model
A real man respects himself and others at all times, unless, of course, he has been disrespected. A real man sets an example for his disciples and especially his children. I never bring my work home, so my children only know me as their father and not as a waste management executive. You should do the same; a real man sets the tone for his children and keeps them from discovering that he has weaknesses.

Trait #7: A real man makes his own fortune
A real man doesn't settle for handouts or charity when it comes to his personal fortune. A real man isn't satisfied with papa's money. He spits on Lady Luck and decides his own destiny. A real man who inherits the goods from his forefathers takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 times what it was.

Trait #8: A real man doesn't look like a woman
A real man doesn't have piercings and long hair, and he doesn't shave his chest. Manicures, however, are acceptable. Massages from female attendants are also tolerated. A real man knows that, outside of his barber, all his personal hygiene needs must be taken care of by a woman.

Monday, October 23, 2006

The Good Die Young

This past weekend was marred by the death of someone i barely knew but whose death affected me anyway. This individual's death brought to memory the deaths of all those whom i've loved and lost over the years, especially those who were young and never got to live out their full potential.

As John Donne once said, "any man's death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee...all mankind is of one author, and is one volume; when one man dies, one chapter is not torn out of the book, but translated into a better language; and every chapter must be so translated.

So i dedicate the following poem to all those who have gone before us;

Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there, I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there, I did not die.
Mary Frye

Friday, October 20, 2006

Hottie of the Day: Channing Tatum


Have a great weekend people!
Mwah x

Thursday, October 19, 2006


Haven't we all been here!

LeToya Luckett - "Torn"

(verse 1)

a part of me wants to leave you alone.

a part of me wants for you to come home.

a part of me says i'm living a lie.(and i'm better off without you.)

a part of me says to think it through.

a part of me says i'm over you.

a part of me wants to say goodbye.

a part of me is asking why...


a part of me wants to leave.

but a part of me wants to be here with you.

and everytime i think we're over and done you do something to get me back loving you.

and you got me just torn.


torn in between the two. (oh yeah)

cuz i really wanna be with you.

but something's telling me i should leave you alone. (i really want to be with you)

leave you alone.

leave you alone.

and you got me just torn in between the two. (in between the two)

cuz i really wanna be with you. (be with you)

but something's telling me i should leave you alone. (you alone)

leave you alone.

leave you alone.

(verse 2)

there were no issues when we started out.it was cool.

it was everything that love's about.

but something happened.

plus i feel it's over now.(cuz i can't understand you now.)

now oh(i just can't understand you now.)

a part of me says it's all my fault.

a part of me says "he ain't what you want."

a part of me says to get my bags.

a part of me says i can't do that.



so many times i... (i was ready to go)

so many times i... (had my foot out the door)

so many times i... (i thought to give him a chance, thought he'd be a better man)

now i'm sitting here and i'm so confused.

cuz i keep fighting myself for you. (i don't know how much more i can take but i can't feel this way)

(you got me so torn)


Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Singing in the Rain

The summer rain has come and not a moment too soon, the heat was bordering on unbearable. I'm a HUGE fan of rain...preferably when i'm snuggled under the covers reading a good book, not when trying to make a mad dash to the car without getting my hair wet. Rain means different things to different people eg It could signal a good crop season, or a new beginning, an excuse to stay home, or just an excuse to get it on *snigger snigger* This got me onto thinking about how rain has been immortalised in song. Listed below, are a few artists that sing about the weather...rain to be exact. I know i've left out a few, so feel free to add your own;

1. Gene Kelly "Singing in the Rain"

2. Madonna "Rain"

3. Dru Hill "April Showers"

4. Millie Vanilli "Blame it on the Rain"

5. Soul 4 Real "Candy Rain"

6. Ella Fitzgerald "Come Rain, Come Shine"

7. Garbage "I'm only happy when it rains"

8. Billy Myers "Kiss the Rain"

9. SWV "Rain Down on Me"

10. Missy Eliot "I can't stand the rain"

Monday, October 09, 2006

Lady of Leisure...or not?

Every once in a while a girl has to be selfish...and that was what i was this weekend. I was long overdue some good old fashioned pampering so went all out with a spa and beauty treatment!

While in the throes of a life-changing neck and back massage i began to imagine the perks of being a "Lady of Leisure". Instead of getting the odd bit of pampering when a space in your hectic schedule cleared up (or when funds were available), you'd be entitled to such indulgences on a weekly...dare i say it...daily basis *sigh* what bliss. But the life of a Lady of Leisure can't be all its cracked up to be...i've seen those desperate housewives, both on the same titled tv show & in my own neighbourhood. Honestly, don't they get bored??? And more importantly....isnt the term "Lady of Leisure" a euphemism for being a "Kept Woman", and honestly, the only thing you should "keep" are domestic pets.

I concluded, once the masseuse had worked out a rather painful kink in my neck, that i'd rather earn such "indulgences" the good, old fashioned way thank you very much.

After all, "I'm worth it" ;-)

Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Can i get an Encore, do you want more?

I'm am sooooooooooooo super stressed at work at the moment, had to take a time-out and vent on my blog, for sanity's sake! Honestly, the only light at the end of the tunnel is that in 11 days and counting, i will get to see one of the hottest, lyricists around...yup, Jay/JayZ/Hova/Jigga/Shawn Carter. To prepare for this momentous event i've taken to listening to a self-compiled CD full of his hits, nothing like some gangsta tunes to get you ready for the day!

I've decided to share some lyrics from his songs that i find either profound, witty or just downright...too cool. Couldn't put all of them down, but these are the few i like.

"When you first come in the game, they try to play you/Then you drop a couple of hits, look how they wave to you" - Encore

"The more space I get the better I write(Oh)/ Never I write, but, if, ever I write/I need the space to say whatever I like" Change Clothes

"If you're havin' girl problems i feel bad for you son/I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one" - 99 Problems

"But ma you got a f'real f'serious role /I'm bout to give you all the keys and security codes/Bout to show you where the cheese, let you know I ain'tplayin/But, before I jump out the window, what's your name?" Excuse Me Miss

"And I need you to remember one thing (one thing)/I came, I saw, I conquered/From record sales, to sold out concerts" Encore

"Rap critics they say he's "Money Cash Hoes"/I'm from the hood stupid, what type of facts are those" 99 Problems

"Only thing missin is a Missus/You ain't even gotta do the dishes, got two dishwashers/Got one chef, one maid, all I need is a partner" Excuse Me Miss

"I heard "Son do you know why I'm stoppin' you for?/"Cause I'm young and I'm black and my hats real low?/Do I look like a mind reader sir, I don't know/Am I under arrest or should I guess some mo'?" 99 Problems

"Thanks for holdin' down the household/When times were bad/As a man, i apologise for my dad" Anything

"I tried to ignore him and talk to the Lord/Pray for him, cause some fools just love to perform/You know the type loud as a motor bike/But wouldn't bust a grape in a fruit fight" 99 Problems

"I got this model chick that don't cook or clean/But she dress her ass off and her walk is mean" Girls, Girls, Girls

"Cuz mami's a rider, and I'm a roller /Put us together, how they gon' stop both us? /What ever she lacks, I'm right over her shoulder/ When I'm offtrack mami is keepin me focused" Bonnie & Clyde

"The problem is, you dudes treat the one that you lovin with the same respect that you treat the one that you humpin" Bonnie & Clyde

"Thanks for the days you kept me breathin'/ when my asthma was bad and my chest was weezin'" Anything

"She do anything necessary for him/ And I do anything necessary for her so don't let the necessary occur, yep! " Bonnie & Clyde

"She sees more than the Benz wagon, the friends taggin along with a flashy nigga braggin on the song/She gets a glimpse of Shawn and she likes that/He 2-ways her, so she writes back /Smiley faces after all of her phrases" Excuse Me Miss